Regardless of its recurrent frustrations and disappointments, online dating is a world of opportunity that gives you a chance to have an awesome time, meet a staggering array of potential partners and learn a lot about yourself and others. Here are some rules to ensure you stay sane and safe amid the fun experience:
1. Believe nobody.
Believe nobody until you know them. Do not invest emotionally in someone you don’t really know. Build a wall between the two of you until you feel it is safe. Some people will plunder your emotions with no hesitation. So like jewels, lock them up. Do not reveal private information about yourself until you are comfortable with the person you are dealing with.
Most people who are always getting hurt over and over again by having very high hopes in a potential partner. If this comes in too late don’t worry, you will meet new suitors and emotion will come storming back.
Be friendly but always look over your shoulder. Enter a dating site as you would walk through an unfamiliar path.
2. Don’t dish out any money.
When the deal is too good, think twice, it could be a lie. Whatever happens, don’t open your wallet to an unfamiliar person, more so the ones whispering sweet nothings into your computer.
The scamming side of online dating which has become rampant nowadays cannot be ignored. Most people have heard the sad stories of men preying on unsuspecting, vulnerable, lonely women who promise them love before extorting huge sums of money from them for some phony reason.
The 50 plus man is also not shielded from these online dating scams. Dazzling young women manipulate the vanity of an older man as a way to get into his wallet.
Remember dating sites are just like any other business; they want your money, so as you sign up beware of the tricks employed. They could be using fake profiles of potential candidates who ‘want to contact you.’
3. Beware of faceless candidates.
It is common for dating site users to edit themselves in some way. Some purport to be single, leaving their spouses at home very miserable as they decide to test waters in the online dating sites. These people in most cases lack profile photos. Contact from the ‘faceless’ should never be responded to.
4. Don’t use sites restricted to a certain age group.
Choosing the right dating site can be very tricky because there are thousands of them. If it’s your first time on this sites, you could subscribe for the minimum period on each (mostly a month) until you settle for one. I would advise against using a dating site designed predominantly for senior dating.
Popular all-generations sites such as Match.com and eHarmony are a bit funkier and definitely not dull. They allow the candidates to cast a wide net.
5. Dating apps for your smartphone.
Another option to put into consideration is a dating app for your smartphone. It matches two candidates within the same geographical region if they both register some mutual liking.
For the over 50 who maybe looking for something a bit more traditional, there is an app called Stitch you should try.
Other apps like Tinder, only match the people who like the look and sound of each other. The site is however meant for people in search of friendship, companionship and romance.